“So… you’re a hooker now?”
“No, I’m a Sugar Baby! I meet rich guys on the Internet, then they take me on trips and buy me stuff.”
“Because you have sex with them.”
If you haven’t had this conversation yet, you will soon. Vancouver was just ranked among the top three cities in Canada for Sugar Daddy Dating.
Sugar relationships are nothing new. Rich men doting on beautiful women dates back to Japanese Geishas, the Courtesans of France, andthat Russian girl my neighbor used to keep chained up in his yard.
In 2005, Brandon Wade created SeekingArrangement.com. Wade billed his site as a place “where the attractive meet the affluent”. Finding well-heeled gentsto bankroll your drunken shopping sprees has never been easier!
At first, I was apprehensive. A man who pays your bills? That kicks years of feminism in the balls with a bare, pregnant foot.
Then one of my best friends started seeing a guy from the site. He turned out to be an Angel Investor.
This Sugar Daddy was in his late 30‘s and handsome. He didn’t have to use Seeking Arrangement to get girls. He could easily just pay ninjas to kidnap hot young women, bring them to his palatial mansion, then hire The Man They Call Reveen to hypnotize them into loving him. He was THAT loaded.
On their second date he pulled up in an orange Lamborghini and whisked her away to Harrison Hot Springs.
As I peered at them zooming away from our basement suite window, I got to thinking. Maybe this Sugar Daddy business is worth a shot?
QUIZ: “Is Sugar Daddy Dating right for me?”
Q: Do you hate working?
o Y o N
Q: Do you like eating at The Keg?
o Y o N
Q: Are you hot?
o Y o N
Well that settles it.
Besides, I go tanning and drink straight whiskey. My un-leathery days are numbered. To quote tens of thousands of tattoos: Carpé Diem.
The next day I got online with over one million other enterprising young strumpets. Time to find out what being a Sugar Baby was all about.
The breakdown of SeekingArrangement.com clientele goes something like this:
Girls: (Approximately 1,200,000 users)
60% Students, waitresses, other girls who like money
Average Age: 24
Guys: (Approximately 300,000 users)
30% Businessmen with no time for relationships
20% The Idle Rich
35% Married dudes
15% ‘30k Millionaires’/Posers
Average Age: 45
Like everything cool on the Internet, Sugar Daddy dating is at risk of ruined by its own users.
Be up front about what you want. Won’t date a married guy? Say so. Not comfortable sipping Manhattans with an Armani-clad Cryptkeeper? Spell it out, woman.
It’s true: some folks liken Sugar dating to prostitution1. In reality, Sugar relationships are a caricature of mainstream dating.
For instance, would your boyfriend still drive you to work and download shirtless vampire movies for you if you didn’t put out? No??? You whoring Jezebel!
footnote1: data collected from 2011 survey of sex-hating people who dislike fun.
Prostitutes can’t spend hours sifting through photos to decide whom they see, either. (Actually I don’t know. Maybe the really fancy ones get to.)
The Ladies and I entertain ourselves for hours critiquing men’s profiles and judging their bathroom mirror iPhone shots. If that’s prostitution, then put me on the back page of The Georgia Strait and call me Trixie.
Yes. You are gold-digging. But just as there are dating services that cater specifically to farmers and people living with herpes… some folks are into that.
Unfortunately, things between my dear friend and Mr. Lamborghini didn’t work out. Just like dating in the real world, personalities don’t always mesh long-term. Get back on the (superficial, financially secure) horse.
At best, Sugar Daddy sites are the VIP Room of online dating. Avenues to meet mentors, lovers, and friends. At worst they’re a first-class ticket to Chopped-up-in-Dumpster-Town. Be safe and trust your gut.
Finally: you have to ask yourself if you’re willing to put your emotions in check and forfeit having a conventional relationship.
We at HUSH Magazine are higher thinking, worldly individuals. We watch TED Talks and drink beer from underprivileged countries. But there are people out there who will judge you. Are you prepared to have this experience become part of your life story?
If the answer is yes, then go to it. Keep an open mind because you may meet someone wonderful. (Or at least someone with a yacht/private jet/small island stocked with drifters that they hunt for sport.)
My sugar adventures were cut short by something so inconvenient as meeting the man of my dreams. He is super easygoing… but prefers I don’t keep company with wealthy strangers for cash.
And although he is a billionaire playboy who regularly travels by hot air balloon, we met the old fashioned way: Facebook.
Samantha Stanway is a Vancouver journalist, screenwriter, and Girl About Town.
This Father’s Day she plans to call her father “Dad” excessively so waiters don’t think she is a Sugar Baby.